he had a grew up with a single mom and even in his environment being that he grew up a lot with white people and things that have nature. >> lincoln lost his mother at a young age. very close to his stepmother who in certain ways had similarities. >> losing rays. lincoln ran for congress and lost. same as barack obama. but yet, persevered and continued with the focus, to move on forward and understanding still peoplecrit stizing you but you're ready to take that criticism because you want to take the next step. sometimes if you're sincere, you don't know right away what the right thing is to do. you've got to think about it and ponder and walk around. as president obama did surely even when he went after osama bin laden. he didn't know. he said i've got to sleep on it. what's the right thing to do here. sometimes you've got to make the right decision and sometimes you may make the wrong decision. >> there's a preference for come tem plative president. sort of weigh in on this for me. >> i think that certainly the falling to your knees at a time of conflict that commonality that both o